Mother\u2019s Day conjures images of flowers and fancy brunches, but what might be joyful for some may be deeply triggering for others. Some folks have lost parents or children, some are struggling with fertility issues, loss, or miscarriage, while others may have a painful or estranged relationship with their mothers.<\/p>\n
Knowing what to say to a friend who is coping with loss and grief can feel hard (and sometimes awkward). Experts recommend putting aside the platitudes and keeping it real. It can be a breath of fresh air for someone experiencing heartache to engage in authentic conversation \u2014 real talk can be really powerful.<\/p>\n
If you have a friend who\u2019s struggling with Mother\u2019s Day and want to offer support, here are a few gentle ways to help.<\/p>\n
Suggest a social media hiatus<\/strong> Honor their grief<\/strong> Be present <\/strong> Listen<\/strong>
\nEncourage your friend to hit pause on their social channels on the days leading up to and after Mother\u2019s Day. It can be triggering to see all the loving photos and posts for someone struggling with the holiday. Muting social media for a few days will help them avoid a potentially upsetting barrage of Mother\u2019s Day messages.<\/p>\n
\nIf your friend is grieving on Mother\u2019s Day, ask if there is a way you can help honor their loved one together. It could be something as simple as lighting a candle for them or doing something that they love like taking a walk on the beach.<\/p>\n
\nAsk your friend \u201chow are you today?\u201d By adding \u2018today\u2019 you give the signal that you want to listen to how they\u2019re actually doing and that it\u2019s safe to open up. Show up for your friend by letting them know that you\u2019re there. Be that friend who keeps checking in.<\/p>\n
\nWhen we struggle with difficult emotions, having someone listen and be a sounding board can really help. Reach out and ask your friend how they feel. Give them the grace and space to share their frustrations and grief. The opportunity to disclose feelings and feel heard can make all the difference.<\/p>\n